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Choices: Mental Contortions

Posted on Mar 21, 2012 by Lisa Ricard Claro   No Comments Yet | Posted in choices · contortion
One of my best friends, Carrie, is someone I admire for many reasons, not the least of which is her ability to make snap decisions. She is smart and sensible, her choices aren’t random, and they are almost always spot on.

Me? Indecisive. I over-think everything and view options from so many different angles my brain holds a degree in contortionism.  I have a PhD in the “what, if, then” scenario, and play each one out in my mind to its bitter end.

Interestingly, this problem rarely plagues me in business. I’m a think-on-her-feet kind of woman, making decisions as necessary and usually with excellent results. It’s in my personal, every-day life that I vacillate. What gives?

Carrie isn’t wishy-washy in her business or personal life. Her analytical mind bridges the gap with ease. How the heck does she do it?

A number of years ago our families met at a local water park. I stood on the concrete walkway debating the options for where we should plant our paraphernalia for the day. As I considered the beach vs. the wave pool vs. the little nipper’s slides, Carrie said, “The beach!” and she was off. No muss, no fuss, and we scored a huge beach umbrella under which to stash our stuff.

This was not a life and death situation, buttercup. This was a “pick a place, any place” scenario. Why did I complicate it? Why, oh, why?

As usual, I have a theory.

In business, most decisions adhere to company rules or protocol. Even never-before-seen dilemmas where (forgive this trite phrase . . . I’m cringing as I write it) out-of-the-box thinking is required, there is still a touchstone of prior practice from which to draw; after all, if you don’t know what “in-the-box” is, how will you know if you’re out of it? In personal life, the variables are less concrete. For us type-A personalities, the nebulosity of day-to-day stuff requires organization and cataloging. My endless debates of pros and cons aren’t wishy-washiness (okay, sometimes they are, but it isn’t my fault; I’m a Libra). They are my attempts to organize information so choices made will offer the most positive outcome.

When I put it that way, my indecisiveness sounds almost noble, doesn’t it? And now that I understand my mental contortions, maybe I will meet more of my writing goals, too. My internal debates regarding plot and character are tools for organization.

Are you a debater like me or an immediate decision maker like my pal Carrie? Or are you both, depending on your environment? And—the big question—does my theory of organization make sense, or is it just rationalization for being indecisive?

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