Lisa Ricard Claro – Author

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Fragile Hearts, Fighting Spirits

Posted on Feb 17, 2016 by Lisa Ricard Claro   20 Comments | Posted in The Naked Truth

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My friend suffered a heart attack. He was airlifted to a trauma center for emergency medical treatment night before last. Based on the wry tone of his emails, tapped in brief on his phone, he’s hurting, but is stabilized thanks to skilled medical staff and the surgical placement of a stent.

Unexpected . . . the last thing I thought I’d see when his name appeared in my inbox was the announcement he delivered without preamble. My own heart dropped to my toes, and all I could think was, “No. No, no, no.”

That sort of bad news takes one’s breath away, doesn’t it? Especially when the person in question is too far away to receive a personal visit. We couch those hospital visits in a cheer-you-up theme, but part of the reason is to assure ourselves that our pal is really okay, that whatever horrible thing happened can and will be repaired. But no, in this case there will be no popping in with a bag of edible contraband and my ever-willing partner in crime, the hubster, in tow. Instead, I will keep checking my phone for updates, shoot off the occasional “are you resting/feeling better/annoying the nurses” messages, and wonder why God created our bodies to be such fragile things. We’re supposed to have been created in His image, and He doesn’t strike me as the fragile type, so what gives?

Why do our bodies betray us so grievously? We trust our bodies, don’t we, as a matter of course? When we’re children, the notion that our internal organs or limbs might fail us is ludicrous. We deliver our flesh and bones into all manner of situations with the potential to harm us, and never think twice. If you’re reading this, you survived childhood in spite of your dangerous choices. But at what point did you stop feeling invincible? How old were you when you first understood that our bodies—as miraculous as they are—can and do fail with alarming frequency?

I broke my ankle in seventh grade. This did not teach me about the fragile nature of my bones. It taught me that gymnastics is not my forte. I blamed gymnastics, not the ankle bone, for my cast and crutches (which I totally embraced, btw, and developed a fine song and dance routine to “All for the Best” from Godspell, complete with one-legged pirouetting and crutches as percussion instruments). Point is, even with infallible proof that my limbs were breakable, I didn’t quite get the message. Nope. Not even a little.

Somewhere along the line, of course, reality set in—probably about the time I became a mother and began worrying about the little people in my care. And then they were the ones not understanding the dangers to their fragile selves. I handled all of that for them (“No, you may not jump from the third story window!” “Don’t run with that sharp stick!” “Helmet, and knee and elbow pads with that skateboard, mister!”). Suddenly, the recognition of fragility was front and center, 24/7. Not my fragility, but theirs.

Now that my kids are grown and I’m sort of a grownup myself, I hold no illusions about the fragility of the human body. Sometimes it’s a stretch, but I try instead to marvel at the body’s ability to heal, to keep working, to give us its all through countless near-misses and frightening circumstances. Maybe we’re not so fragile, after all. The strength is in the heart and soul of the person inhabiting those oh-so-breakable parts. And when I look at it that way, I’m not worried about my friend at all. He’s a writer and a fighter. He’ll come through this with his humor intact and his pen at the ready.

Fragile our beating hearts might be, but our spirits have one hell of a backbone. Hmm . . . maybe we were created in His image, after all.


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20 Responses to "Fragile Hearts, Fighting Spirits"

  1. Comment by Jerri Lynn
    February 17, 2016 at 8:13 am  

    Hi Sweetie. …I will be praying for your friend. That being said….what a wonderful read this was! You never fail to touch my heart and YES! We are created in His image! Wonderfully and Awesomely fashioned! I love you so much and am so happy to be your Meg. ♡♡♡

    • Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
      February 18, 2016 at 9:32 pm  

      Love you. Thanks for commenting. (I’m glad you’re my Meg, too!)

  2. Comment by Linda O'Connell
    February 17, 2016 at 8:53 am  

    Lisa, life itself is fragile, and some days our minds are stronger than our bodies, or vice versa. Your friend is in my prayers.

    • Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
      February 18, 2016 at 9:32 pm  

      Thanks, Linda.

  3. Comment by Claudia
    February 17, 2016 at 9:25 am  

    Moving post…facing so much of what you said myself. I’m older than you and it just seems we deal with aging parents while aging ourselves. Not fun.

    • Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
      February 18, 2016 at 9:33 pm  

      No, not fun. But another life phase to experience.

  4. Comment by Cathy C. Hall
    February 17, 2016 at 10:10 am  

    Glad your friend is on the mend! Yes, somewhere along the line we go from invincible to fragile and the best we can hope for is love to carry us through.

    • Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
      February 18, 2016 at 9:34 pm  


  5. Comment by ButtonsMom2003
    February 17, 2016 at 11:23 am  

    What a great and moving post. You never know when your time is up; I learned that when my father died very unexpectedly. I also learned a bit about living every day the way you want when I was told I had cancer. Thank goodness I’m OK now but it did cause me to take a step back and wonder whether or not I was doing the things I wanted to do. I’m now having fun in the sun and don’t regret retiring one bit. 🙂

    I’m glad your friend is doing OK.

    • Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
      February 18, 2016 at 9:35 pm  

      Thanks, Susan. He’s being released from the hospital tomorrow. And I’m glad you’re okay! AND that you’re having fun in the sun. 🙂

  6. Comment by Pat
    February 17, 2016 at 3:17 pm  

    Yes, we are fragile, but wonderfully resilient, too. Thank goodness!

    • Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
      February 18, 2016 at 9:35 pm  

      Yes. Amazingly so, sometimes.

  7. Comment by Martha Graham-Waldon
    February 17, 2016 at 4:36 pm  

    Hi Lisa, best wishes for your friend’s speedy recovery. Thanks for “Love to Believe” and the “believe” stone I received in the mail yesterday. I will start reading it when I finish “Love Built to Last”. I’m sure enjoying it!

    • Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
      February 18, 2016 at 9:36 pm  

      Thanks Martha. I’m glad it arrived in one piece!

  8. Comment by Lynn Obermoeller
    February 18, 2016 at 7:15 pm  

    Sending love your way for both you and your friend.

    • Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
      February 18, 2016 at 9:36 pm  

      Thanks, Lynnie.

  9. Comment by Sioux
    February 18, 2016 at 7:17 pm  

    Lisa–I’m thinking good thoughts for your friend. Heart problems are scary, and whenever scare rears its head, it does remind us of how fragile our hold is on this earth.

    Great book! I did a review on Amazon. When the next one comes out, I’m sure that’ll make a hat trick for you…

    • Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
      February 18, 2016 at 9:37 pm  

      Thanks for leaving that review, Sioux. I appreciate it. And I’m happy you liked the book!

  10. Comment by Rob
    February 20, 2016 at 10:15 am  

    Thanks for the kind thoughts everybody. I’m home now and expected to make a full recovery. 🙂

    • Comment by ButtonsMom2003
      February 22, 2016 at 9:53 am  

      So glad to hear you are doing better, Rob.

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