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Motherhood, Meteors and Empty Nests

Posted on May 27, 2010 by Lisa Ricard Claro   5 Comments | Posted in empty nest · meteor · motherhood

The last day of school was today and my youngest is officially a high school junior.  Two more years and my child rearing days will be done.  

Okay, maybe not done.  Done-ish.  I know they never fizzle out completely, but the day-to-day stuff will wind down. It is like watching a meteor zoom in. Right now it is a speck of light in space, and it looks kind of sparkly off there in the distance; but when it hurtles in for a landing two years from now it will pack a wallop.

Two of my chicks are already out of the nest, but when the first one left I still had two more to nurture; when the second left, one remained.  When this last one spreads her wings I’ll have no chicks in-nest over which to cluck.  In some ways this is a good thing, in other ways not so much.  I’m up for the event, but glad I have two years before it actually occurs.

So much of my personal identity has, for more than two decades, been tied to hands-on motherhood that I wonder how I will view myself when that changes.  So I ask those of you who have preceded me into Empty Nesting—any words of wisdom? Did you shed tears or do a happy dance when your last chick flew off? Did you miss the daily mom routine or rejoice in your free time, or both simultaneously?

I’ve got two years to figure this one out.  When the meteor hits, I’ll be ready.

Til next time –

5 Responses to "Motherhood, Meteors and Empty Nests"

  1. Comment by Lynn
    May 27, 2010 at 4:05 pm  

    I definitely did a happy dance. But I do love my children more than anything in the world. Being a mom doesn't stop now that they are gone, so you'll always have that. I rejoice in my free time and when I see women with small children, I think to myself, whew, glad those days are over. I have wonderful children so I'm enjoying them so much more now. I think you'll do just fine.

  2. Comment by BECKY
    May 27, 2010 at 6:03 pm  

    Hi Lisa! I think you'll do great, too, because you already have other interests and talents to spend your time on! Well, I just deleted a very long and boring tale! Short version: I love my time now, but never thought I would, because Mark was like an only child!

  3. Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
    May 27, 2010 at 7:53 pm  

    Hi ladies – Thanks. Lynn, you're right about seeing people with small kids and being glad I'm past that phase. I hadn't thought of that. Becky, I hadn't thought of your point either, about having other interests to occupy my time. Maybe a little time for myself, eh? Sounds pretty good.

  4. Comment by Kathy at Oregon Gifts of Comfort and Joy Welcomes You!
    May 27, 2010 at 10:18 pm  

    Hi Lisa! I have been thinking about this all day long. In the end, you just have more free time for yourself. You don't have the daily thinking of taking care of a child's schedule … games, extra curricular activities, lunch money, dinner, movies and all the running around. It is sad at first, but you do get used to it. Then, it is only you and your husband, and it is simpler. It is nice. You email them, call them, text them, Facebook them …you stay in touch with those kiddos (like you do with the older ones already) but it is quieter at home. The pets become your little ones. :>)

  5. Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
    May 27, 2010 at 10:41 pm  

    Hey Kathy – You make it sound pretty easy, especially the part about the pets picking up the slack on my cluck-clucking! I kind of do that already, so it won't be much of a stretch. LOL I wonder if all that free time I'll suddenly have will be like space in a new house. You know, we move in and think we have all this space. Two years later we complain that there isn't enough space anymore!

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