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Sea of Forgetfulness: A Mother’s Love

Posted on May 6, 2015 by Lisa Ricard Claro   24 Comments | Posted in Uncategorized
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Thanks for swinging by Writing in the Buff! I hope you’re having a great week. Mother’s Day is this coming Sunday, and I’ve borrowed from Mother’s Day 2010 for today’s Naked Truth.  Hope you don’t mind the repeat. Please leave a comment for me! You know I love hearing from you.
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My mama is on my mind daily, especially now that Mother’s Day has a foot in the door.  I miss my mom and talk to her all the time about everything. It isn’t the same as actually having her here, but I like to think she looks in on me from time to time and listens as well now as she did before God relocated her to His place.

Today I recalled an incident from my teen years. Prom loomed, and Mama agreed to take me dress shopping. We picked the night we would go, but she arrived home from work exhausted. She apologized and promised to take me the next day. To say I was disappointed is an understatement. I was so angry with Mama for letting me down that I mouthed off, something I rarely did, and stormed out of the house to walk off my mad. Why I didn’t get my butt grounded I’ll never know. My anger simmered for a day or so. The shopping trip occurred, but I tarnished the excursion with my bad attitude, and have regretted it ever since.

A few months before my mother died she came for a three month visit. One evening we sipped wine and chatted on my back deck, and I thought of that incident. As an adult, I understand coming home dog tired after a long day at the office and needing to put off what would most certainly be an hours-long shopping trip.

“My behavior that night has haunted me,” I confessed, happy to release my guilt. “I made you feel awful for disappointing me, and I should have been nicer and more understanding. If it’s any consolation, I empathize now, and I hope you’ll forgive me.”

“Snowflake,” Mama said, smiling, “I don’t remember that. In fact, I cannot remember a moment when you brought me anything but joy.”

We mothers have the ability to toss the bad from our hearts and embrace the good, much as we acknowledge the pain of childbirth even as we minimize it in the glow of our love for our children. That heartaches fade while blessings multiply is one of God’s great gifts to mothers.

I still feel guilty about that incident, even though Mama forgave and forgot. Were she with me now I imagine she would tell me to get over it already. Life is too short, she would say, to do anything but love.

Happy Mother’s Day –

Lisa

24 Responses to "Sea of Forgetfulness: A Mother’s Love"

  1. Comment by Dorothy
    May 6, 2015 at 5:43 am  

    Your mom was amazing and so are you! Happy Mother’s day Lisa!

    • Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
      May 7, 2015 at 9:23 pm  

      Happy Mother’s Day to you, too, Dorothy!

  2. Comment by Sioux
    May 6, 2015 at 6:49 am  

    Lisa–I don’t know how, but I think I missed this when it originally was posted, so I was grateful for the encore offering.

    Your story will (hopefully) nudge people who still have their mothers or fathers to confess/apologize to their parents, along with taking time to spend time with them… while they still HAVE the time. I never got to truly apologize for my wild teenage years, so I hope Mom is checking on me occasionally and can hear all the unspoken things that are still swirling around in my heart.

    Yes, mothers hold onto the love and the heartaches are forgotten. Your mama was a wise woman and loving mother, just like you are.

    Have a wonderful day on Sunday. And thanks for sharing this story. (It brought tears to my eyes, and I’m a tough ol’ bird. I don’t cry easily.)

    • Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
      May 7, 2015 at 9:26 pm  

      To be fair, Sioux, it’s been five years since this was originally posted, so it’s no surprise that you might not remember it. Glad you enjoyed it. Sorry it made you cry, though. 🙂 Happy Mother’s Day.

  3. Comment by Debra Mayhew
    May 6, 2015 at 8:32 am  

    I’m glad you reposted this one. It’s amazing to me how much the little things really DO matter to those we love. Just taking the time for someone can mean so much. I’m know there have been many, many times I put my kids off because I was too tired and it always bothers me. I’m guessing your mom felt the same, but how sweet that she only remembers the happiness you brought her. Have a wonderful Mother’s Day!

    • Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
      May 7, 2015 at 9:30 pm  

      You know, Deb, I felt so awful about that incident for so long, it still boggles my mind that she didn’t even remember! I was so ashamed for the way I behaved, I don’t know how it wasn’t etched into her brain, but it wasn’t. She was the type of person who always saw the best in everything, though. At my mother’s funeral one of the ladies in the quilting bee group (hilarious that my mother, who couldn’t sew a stitch, volunteered for the quilting bee) told me she had never heard my mother say an unkind word about another person. I’ve always remembered that. I think it to be a compliment of the highest degree.

  4. Comment by Cathy C. Hall
    May 6, 2015 at 9:19 am  

    Oh, I remember this one, Lisa–because it rings so true. It must be a Mom thing, this lack-of-memory gene. Or maybe we’re just getting old! 🙂

    • Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
      May 7, 2015 at 9:32 pm  

      I’d love to say it’s the mother thing, but yeah, it’s probably the getting old thing. lol

  5. Comment by Robert Robinson
    May 6, 2015 at 9:53 am  

    Happy Mother’s Day.

    • Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
      May 7, 2015 at 9:33 pm  

      Thanks, Rob!

  6. Comment by Claudia
    May 6, 2015 at 2:33 pm  

    Beautiful post then and still beautiful now. Your mother was gracious…not all mothers or children for that matter are so forgiving. Hope you have a nice Mother’s Day yourself on Sunday.

    • Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
      May 7, 2015 at 9:34 pm  

      Thank you, Claudia! Yes, I suppose what you say is correct, which makes me feel even more fortunate.

  7. Comment by Casey Hagen
    May 6, 2015 at 5:45 pm  

    Love!

    • Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
      May 7, 2015 at 9:35 pm  

      🙂 Happy Mother’s Day, Casey!

  8. Comment by Pat
    May 6, 2015 at 6:59 pm  

    Such a sweet story, and perfect for Mother’s Day. Thanks, Lisa!

    • Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
      May 7, 2015 at 9:36 pm  

      Thank you, Pat – enjoy your Sunday!

  9. Comment by ButtonsMom2003
    May 6, 2015 at 11:59 pm  

    Beautiful; your writing is wonderful. Since I wasn’t following your blog when you originally posted this I’m glad you posted it again.

    Have a Happy Mother’s day.

    • Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
      May 7, 2015 at 9:36 pm  

      Thank you!

  10. Comment by Linda O'Connell
    May 8, 2015 at 2:47 pm  

    So much truth in this. Blogger won’t let me leave a message through my blog. I’m on Sioux’s feed. Happy Mother’s Day!

    • Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
      May 9, 2015 at 9:14 am  

      That dang Blogger. I have trouble leaving messages on Blogger, too. I’ve started typing my comments in Word so I can cut & paste them, because more often than not Blogger reloads the screen and erases my comment. WordPress and Blogger need to learn to play nice!

  11. Comment by Tammy
    May 10, 2015 at 9:27 am  

    Wise woman. Happy Mother’s Day!

    • Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
      May 13, 2015 at 3:17 pm  

      Mine certainly was. I hope yours was as well, Tammy.

  12. Comment by Theresa Sanders
    May 11, 2015 at 4:41 pm  

    This was such a beautiful story, Lisa, and I’m so glad you shared it another time around. Your mom sounds like a fabulous woman — and she raised a fabulous daughter too! Hope your Mother’s Day was wonderful 🙂

    • Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
      May 13, 2015 at 3:17 pm  

      Thanks for the kind words, Theresa. I miss my mom so much, but she left me with a heart full of wonderful memories.


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