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Sibling Stuff

Posted on Jun 8, 2010 by Lisa Ricard Claro   11 Comments | Posted in brother · siblings · sister

Yesterday I talked on the phone with my sister, and tonight I chatted with my brother.  Hearing their voices buoys my spirits. 

I’m the baby of the family, and had anyone divulged to my 7-year-old self that I would adore my older siblings one day, I would have contemplated wedging a ginormous wad of abc green apple bubble gum right up his/her nose, because gum up the snout is a suitable punishment for people who lie to children.

Obviously, I would never have actually performed such a heinous act, because I was an angel.  Honest.

At the age of 7 I didn’t care much for the pecking order.  In retrospect, it turned out to be a good deal having two people who believed protecting me was a directive straight from God.  Yeah, I survived the usual torture doled out by older siblings, but it was a small price to pay for the blessings that ran alongside it.  

All those childhood arguments and fights and disagreements and rivalries that comprised every day living were stepping stones that gave way to hugs and kisses and laughter and shared tears and grief and memories of things so good that it aches to remember them. 

We can’t pick our siblings. They are given to us without our input or permission. But if we are very lucky and all the stars align, we get to grow up with our very best friends. 

Til next time –

11 Responses to "Sibling Stuff"

  1. Comment by Linda O'Connell
    June 8, 2010 at 10:41 pm  

    Lisa, This is one of the sweetest posts ever. While sibling rivalry often carries over into adulthood, you seem to have avoided it. I'm sure your siblings are blessed with their baby sister.

  2. Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
    June 8, 2010 at 10:45 pm  

    Thanks Linda. I'll agree they like me a lot more now than they did when I was 7. πŸ™‚

  3. Comment by BECKY
    June 8, 2010 at 11:18 pm  

    Oh, how beautiful! You are so fortunate….so many families and siblings just do not get along, or even really care about each other. I'm happy to say that my family isn't one of those! We all like each other!! :D(This is another one of those Twilight Zone moments for me, Lisa. It has to do with my deceased sister, who I'll be writing about on my blog a little later tonight.)

  4. Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
    June 8, 2010 at 11:35 pm  

    Hi Becky – Guess we're channeling the sibling love tonight. I am sorry about your sister. I will be sure to check in on your blog so I can read about her. I bet she watches over you with pride.

  5. Comment by irishoma
    June 8, 2010 at 11:41 pm  

    Lisa,What a lovely sentiment. Those of us with siblings are truly blessed.Donna

  6. Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
    June 8, 2010 at 11:49 pm  

    Thanks, Donna. Siblings are a gift. It occurred to me that even when we were arguing as kids, we were learning something in a safe environment with people who would forgive us later.

  7. Comment by Oregon Gifts of Comfort and Joy
    June 9, 2010 at 9:20 am  

    Lisa, I love reading your stuff. I have been missing my brother lately, and this post has prompted me to see what he has been up to. Thanks!

  8. Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
    June 9, 2010 at 1:37 pm  

    Hey Kathy – Glad to help! I bet just hearing his voice will cheer you up. πŸ˜›

  9. Comment by anita
    June 10, 2010 at 2:03 pm  

    I absolutely love this piece, Lisa — you are still an angel. You have a great, very loving family. I still think sometimes about your story about you and your Dad at Cape Cod that was in Chicken Soup for the Soul. You give family a good name!

  10. Comment by Lynn
    June 10, 2010 at 4:04 pm  

    What a lovely post. Our family was like two separate ones – my two older siblings and then my little sister and me. My little sister and I used to fight all the time. I was so mean to her (because I was jealous of all the attention she got, that I didn't), but now I wouldn't want to live without her – or my other siblings. We're fortunate too to all be close.

  11. Comment by Lisa Ricard Claro
    June 10, 2010 at 4:29 pm  

    Hi Anita – Thank you. I love that you remember the "sun drops" story! I wish my Dad was alive when that was published, because he would have remembered that day at the beach, even though we shared so many. That one was special.Hey Lynn – It seems like getting through the kid stuff is what we pay for the richness of the adult friendships. I try not to take it for granted.

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